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The book: The 5 Love Languages: The Secret to Love that Lasts by Gary Chapman is an amazing book that I believe everyone should read.
The 5 languages of love consist of physical touch, gift giving, quality time, acts of service, and words of affirmation. While most of these things are important in a marriage, usually people have one or two of these that rank higher than the other ones.
In your relationship, it is important to know and understand your preferred love language but also your significant other’s love language.
There are a variety of ways to implement each of the love languages in your relationship. I have compiled a list of ways to take each specific language of love and apply it to your relationship.
The main way to implement this in your relationship is to give your significant other a surprise. Pay attention and listen to your partner when they express delight in something or desire in an item that is too expensive or something that they think they don’t really need.
Wait for a moment when you are alone and not busy and do some looking around. Order the item online and give the gift to them when it arrives. Or take the person out shopping where you know the item is and surprise them with the purchase.
This doesn’t have to be a gift in the whole sense of the word. Buy them their favorite meal or a treat. Create a list of songs you know they love. Be creative!
There are countless ways to apply touch in a relationship. The best way is to show some small measure of affection throughout your day together. Grab their hand or wrap them up in a spontaneous hug. Let them know that you desire them and want to be around them.
Interlock your arms while you are walking or give a kiss on the check while you are shopping. Small gestures can go a long way for a person who holds physical touch to more importance.
Quality time is good for any relationship. In order for this to qualify as an act of love, you will have to spend quality time doing something the other person enjoys and actually wants to do.
If you know their interests and what they enjoy for a hobby, make time for those things.
Find common ground with your interests. Start exploring what both of you truly enjoy doing. Explore new areas or new hobbies if you truly have nothing in common. Any way that you can encourage time together with your partner is beneficial.
Acts of Service
An easy way to do an act of service is to complete something they know they need to do. Wash the car, fix something that is broken, or run the errand that you have both been putting off.
Take care of problems that need to be done but can be stressful. Make the appts or pay the extra bills.
Go ahead with tasks that need to be done and provide it as a love language for your partner.
Words of Affirmation
If your partner is going through a rough time, provide support for them. Tell them you love them and that you are there for them. Let them know that you appreciate what they are doing and going through.
Let them know that they are important to you. Tell them that they are beautiful. Speak against their negative self-talk.
These 5 love languages are simple, but they can be easily overlooked in the day to day craziness. Sometimes it is the little things that can make a world of different to our partner.
Remember that both of you need to work on fulfilling the needs of the relationship. This will create a strong bond and help to make sure that you both feel loved and wanted.
Comment below and tell me how you connect in your relationship and whether you know your significant other’s primary love language.