If you are a mother, then you will understand that feeling of drowning. You feel like you can’t keep up, like everything is swarming you all at once. When I feel overwhelmed, I tend to stop any productivity that could have happened.
As a mother, it is quite easy to get overwhelmed. Some days I’m not even sure what needs to be done and what has already been done.
With four children, I have good days and bad days. There are days where I can get up hours before the children, get the chores done, find time to write, and have a general peaceful day. And then there are days where everyone is cranky and unwilling, I can’t find time to shower or cook, and the mood of the house is irritable.
I have learned over time that it takes planning, but you can keep the feeling of being overwhelmed at bay.
There are certain things that can be done to make sure that you aren’t so stressed out over the day. I have found that my day goes a lot smoother if I sit back and assess whether it is worth continuing the chaos or whether we would all benefit from an “off” day of doing nothing serious, ordering take out, and relaxing.
Here are some ways to make sure that you don’t get overwhelmed when you are a mother.
Reset your day.
Sometimes all it takes to reset a day is to create a basic list of things that need done (chores, showers, food) and then everyone can move on with everything else that needs done. On other days, the feeling of being overwhelmed can be so strong that it takes a great deal more effort to reset yourself. On these days, I like to simply let everything go. Is the house a mess? That’s okay! Has no one done their homework and you haven’t gotten any work done? Let it be. Sometimes the easiest thing to do is just to step back and acknowledge that you can’t control everything.
Give yourself some space
As a mother, sometimes the overwhelm comes directly from your kids. While you love them to the moon and back, space can be a lifesaver for moms! How do I accomplish this? My kids LOVE to draw. Sitting them down and letting them make a mess with crayons, pencils, and paper is their idea of a fun time. Since they are so focused on making me creations, I can retreat to the office or the bedroom and take some time for myself. I do use the TV as well for distractions. This works less with the four-year-old and the two-year-old,but it has its moments where I can use the TV and still get some quiet. If all else fails, I will put everyone in the living room and sit down with them. I will have headphones in listening to what I want to listen to while they have a show on or are doing what they want to do.
Schedule the most important items first
For my family, mornings are the most productive time of the day. After everyone has woke up and eaten, the kids are more likely to behave on store runs and other errands. They are also more likely to be quiet if mommy must sit back in the office and work. Afternoons and evenings tend to be more stressful for us.
What is your most productive time of the day? Try to schedule things that HAVE to be done for the day during that time.
Set boundaries for yourself and your family
One of the traps I fall into the easiest is saying yes to more things when I really should be focusing on less. I tend to want to make our life easy and less stressful, but I end up signing up for more classes/courses,trying new and fancy recipes, or trying to give the kids extra homework. Other times, I will say yes to outings because they sound fun.
I am in a season of life where I have young children. My kids range in ages from 2-9. I have begun to believe that my focus should be anthem for right now. I have created the rule of setting boundaries so that I am more capable of focusing on my family.
Allow the word “no”
This falls in line with setting boundaries. In order to have boundaries, you must say no to invitations and offers. As a woman, it can be SO hard to say no to people. This is even harder when the people you love and care about are inviting you to different places and offering you good resources. You don’t want to offend them! But, you must think of how overwhelmed you could be if you took on everything at once.
Perhaps you don’t say no. It might be easier to say, “Maybe another time”. This way, the other person doesn’t feel put-off and you have another chance at doing what you were wanting to do at another time.
Be aware of distractions
It is so easy to fall prey to the many distractions this world has to offer. The Internet, social media, any hobbies you may have are all areas that have good and bad distractions. It is easy to get sidetracked ofwhere you are supposed to be going and what you should be doing.
I have this problem. I have to clearly keep my goals in my mind as I have the tendency to veer off course quite frequently. I have recently made a goal for myself to get on social media less. While this can be hard while running a blog, I have done an okay job of it. I make sure that I am only on sites to look up answers, reply to people, or do anything else that relates to my blog. Since I have started this website, I have found that all the extra online time has motivated me to find other ways to distract myself that don’t include screen time.
While I have gotten sidetracked, just remember to be aware of the areas in your life that can distract you. While it might seem like“relaxing” to browse Instagram or Facebook, sometimes the time gets away from you and you found yourself even more overwhelmed than you were before.
Ask if what you are stressing over is really THAT important
Sometimes as a woman, we can stress over things that shouldn’t be receiving that much emotion. Have you been overwhelmed with how little healthy food you have been eating lately? Are you worried about the TV shows your kids watch? A goal of mine has been to relax and pick my battles. We went out for fast food again this week. At least the kids got fed! My kids have been watching more and more TV while I have started my job. While I make sure that it’s either education or cute, I have been stressed that they are watching too much. But I just have to remind myself that they are entertained, and they are usually learning something too.
So, please don’t put too much stress on yourself! Try to let the little things go. These 7 tips have begun to make a big difference in my life. I hope they will help you as well.
Let me know in the comments what you do to help make sure that you don’t get overwhelmed!